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Self-Care Is Not Selfish

We are spiritual beings having a human experience and let me tell you, this experience is not easy. Often, we tend to our lover, kids, family, friends, and work first and foremost, before we tend to ourselves. When do you take the time to show up for yourself? Sadly, many of us don’t.

The everyday duties of life can be taxing and tiring, but we must take the time to show up for ourselves the same way we do for everyone else. If you continue to pour from yourself, what will you have left to drink? Giving too much of yourself is like spending money you do not have.

Self-care is defined as the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health. Always remember, self-care is not selfish; it is necessary. For some, self-care may be going to the salon for a pedicure after a long week, for others self-care may be going to the gym or even going to church. However self-care looks for you, make sure you partake in it.

The thing we know for a sure is that self-care is about one honoring themselves. You are your greatest gift and with any gift, you must protect it because it is valuable.

Honor yourself by walking away from people, places and things that are no longer serving you.

Honor yourself by maintaining your energy instead of matching the energy of others.

Honor yourself by choosing peace.

Honor yourself by chasing the dreams God put in your heart.

Honor yourself by choosing to love all the time and every time.

Honor yourself by flowing instead of forcing.

Honor yourself by loving yourself, all of yourself.

Honor yourself by becoming the best version of yourself.

This is self-care at its finest.

Below you will find some self-care tips and tricks, try them out and see which one feels the best for you:

  • Start your morning with prayer. Set your intentions by visualizing how you want your day to go and thank God in advance.

  • Proverbs 18:21 says "The tongue has the power of life and death." Choose your words wisely, speak life into yourself with positive affirmations such as "I am blessed", "I am abundant", "I am purposeful and prosperous" and or "I am full of potential". Speak what you want to see.

  • Light incense daily, morning and night. Inhale and exhale deeply with intention. Ask the white light of peace to be present with you and in you.

  • Wake up 30 minutes earlier than you typically do. Fix yourself some of your favorite tea and sit quietly with thoughts of positivity.

  • Go the gym regularly. The gym can help improve your mood, decrease stress, and aid you in getting better sleep. I mean, you will also look better physically so it is a win-win. If you are not sure where to start, join a fitness class.

  • Become a plant parent. Plants are not only great for home décor, but studies show that plants boost moods, reduce stress and clean indoor air by absorbing toxins, increasing humidity, and producing oxygen.

  • Take yourself on a date. Get dressed up, put on your favorite outfit, and go to one of your favorite restaurants. Really enjoy your own company and be present with yourself. You are the present, gift you to you.

  • Spend time in nature. Like exercising and getting plants, being in nature can also boost your mood. Find a local hiking trail in your city, go to the beach, or simply walk outside. Look at all the beautiful things God created and appreciate them.

  • Look into therapy. Sometimes we just need someone to talk to, a stranger we can tell all our business to without the fear of judgement. A therapist is the friend you never knew you needed. Therapy is not only for those bad feelings; therapy helps you to also maintain the good ones.

  • Take yourself on a trip. What city have you always wanted to visit? Go there! Visit local museums, try new restaurants, sit at the bar, and make new friends. Live!

  • Get a journal. Start writing down your thoughts so you can get them out of your mind. Journaling is a great way to decompress and not overthink. The great thing about journaling is you can go back a month or year later and see how much you have grown.

  • Get good rest. Take a nap. There is nothing like feeling well rested.

  • Try yoga. Yoga links movement to deep breathing and sometimes all we need is a breather. Yoga is a great way to find calm and wholeness.

  • Dance like no one is watching. Whether it be in the house or at the club, let go.

  • Watch documentaries. Learn about different religions and cultures. Learning is a gift that keeps on giving.

No matter what tip you choose, always honor yourself. You are your first friend, and you will be your last.

Manage your mind, strengthen your spirit, and honor your heart.

Take care of yourself.

Love Always,

The Heart Helper

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