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A Soft Life

Updated: May 9, 2023


Surprisingly enough, a soft life is a simple life. It isn’t glamorous, glitter filled or too good to be true because a soft life is very much so attainable. A “soft life” looks a lot like peace, smells like forgiveness and embodies the essence of love. A soft life has nothing to do with the surface level of consciousness, but it has everything to do with the deepest level of awareness.

Yes, money makes life easier but let’s be clear, it doesn’t make life soft. Have you ever met a miserable rich person? I certainly have, which lets me know that money doesn’t make life soft, it only makes life secure. Throughout my years, I have come to learn that peace makes my life soft, love makes my life soft, and forgiveness makes my life soft. A soft life is right in front of our faces and those that have the ability to be present have enjoyed its gift.

If we really want to get into the grit of the things, in all honesty God makes life soft. No matter how hard your life is, no matter how big the obstacle, no matter how deep the shit is that you're in, if you carry the light within you, the darkness outside of you won’t matter. Faith makes life soft because those who have faith, don’t fold in the face of fear. A soft life is spiritual and it does not have any resemblance to self (ego) or things. One that lives a soft life has lost the world and gained themself, think about that.

Tips for living a soft life:

Be Present

Put the phone down. We have so many distractions that are taking away from the substance of our human experience. Do yourself a favor and experience this life instead of just watching it. When you are with family, friends, or associates, make a conscious effort to listen with intention. Show the people you are around respect by being your full self instead of just your shell self.


Do you feel all that hurt you are carrying? Let it go! The hurt others have left with you wasn’t your fault, but you choosing to continue carrying it is. Bless the hurt out of your life and welcome the healing in. Remember, if you are busy carrying bags, you can't catch blessings.


Love as much as you can and as often as you can. Love doesn’t always have to be romantic, it just has to be real. Call an old friend and check on them. Write down the things you love about yourself. Tell someone the things you love about them. Staying in the presence of love is a sweet space to be in, a soft space.

Do Nothing Day

Treat yourself to a day of doing absolutely nothing and I do mean nothing. Add NOTHING to your calendar and don’t reschedule it. On this day, stay home, order food from your favorite restaurant and have it delivered. Spend time with yourself on this day, put a face mask on, read a book, listen to vinyl records and relax! We are always so busy, chill.

Connect with God

Add God to your daily routine. Begin your day with prayer and practice gratitude throughout. What are you thankful for? Connecting with God means you practice presence, one that practices presence, can see God in everything. Paris Hilton may say "that's hot" but I will say "that's soft".

If you can connect, you can create, a soft life.

Love always,

The Heart Helper

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